Playful Joy - a parenting podcast without the guilt

In this episode, I again speak to the Superintendent of Mission Public Schools to get some answers about what back to school will look like for students across grade levels. Mostly this episode is intended to help parents who are still trying to decide whether or not to send their children back to in-class instruction or whether another option is the correct choice for their family at this time. The different options (regular school placement, distributed learning and home schooling) are defined, discusses and weighed out a little with pros and cons. We discuss the learning groups (cohorts, bubbles whatever you're calling it!) and what function they truly serve. If you want to know why the high school is in-class one day a week and why it isn't your youngest children that you should be the most worried about then listen now! We even discuss teachers in the 1900s hint: just like you CANNOT show up to school with the sniffles today, you didn't want to show up with dirty fingernails back then! Here is the link…

As British Columbia prepares to open schools to part-time, in class learning, I speak to the Superintendent of Mission Public Schools about sending children back to school. If you are wondering what school might look like while there is no vaccine for the Coronavirus or cure for COVID-19, then this is the episode for you! We chat about ALL THE THINGS: the fear, the playground, the research-based evidence, the misunderstandings, the disadvantaged children who don’t have access to laptops and wifi and the “why now?” and “why bother?” questions SO many parents have been asking. Near the end, Mr. Wilson shares about a family with immune compromised children who ARE choosing to send their children and what they said when asked if they were sure about their decision. The information in this episode is specific to British Columbia, Canada (and mostly about the Mission school district) and the research discussed was correct and current on May 22, 2020. I hope it helps in your decision making now OR for September…

We all have feelings and we're going to have them forever. If you would like to learn a couple of ways to calm your children after a tantrum this is the episode for you! I walk you through the idea of a "calm down basket" and give you the steps in teaching children about their emotions. They honestly do not know what is happening to them or how to come down from it when they are having big feelings. We can name their feelings, discuss where and how they feel emotions in their body and guide them towards being able to tell us how they are feeling and why. This is a stressful time. NEVER before in my lifetime has the entire world had so many BIG feelings all at the same time! Also, (as if that wasn't enough to deal with), a lot of us are staying at home, not seeing friends and family, and not able to attend appointments that usually keep us feeling well and balanced. The RAIN technique that I learned through Tara Brach's book and podcasts has helped me and could help your older children (and you) too! Calm…

During this unknown time, it's normal for kids to be extra worried, fearful, clingy, overly emotional and a bunch of other big emotions...on this episode I discuss the virus, prevention, how it spreads and how you can talk to your children about this upside down world we are living in where their parents work from home, they can't play with their friends, they can't hug their grandparents and schools have been shutdown until further notice. Here are the websites mentioned in this episode and a new self assessment tool that was just launched in BC How to talk to children about Coronavirus -one page from the Fred Rogers Centre https://www.fredrogerscenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/FRC-COVID19-Response.pdf The information I quoted is from the BC Centre for Disease Control and your country/state/province's healthcare website continues to be the best place to go for information. There is a LOT of misinformation out on social media right now. http://covid-19.bccdc.ca/ The self-assessment quiz on the BCCDC…

In this episode, I share my personal experience of moving through grief once having children and how I handled sharing information with them. This episode was actually recorded in August, (long before my chat with Mitch McCormick in Episode 17 - Grief Guidance), but after speaking with him it feels like the right time to share this too. I hope you find some of it helpful, even if only because you know someone else is or has gone through the same things and found it just as hard as you do. Episode Notes: Here is the link the other episode on moving through grief with children: https://anchor.fm/charlene-nicole/episodes/17---Grief-Guidance-GUEST-Mitch-McCormick-eaih3q If you need support please reach out: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm If you would like more information on helping a friend or loved one who is grieving here is an article that I found helpful: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/helping-someone-who-is-grieving.htm

This episode is all about grief, loss and mostly about explaining death to children. I was moved by my friend's elegy for his mother so much so that I asked him to be on the podcast to share it. I love the amazing way he explained death to his young children and I think you will too! My guest is Mitch McCormick, a long time friend, engaging story-teller and father of 2 young children. He lost his mother suddenly and when she was much too young-as she was JUST starting to enjoy her retirement as a matter of fact...Mitch shares the story of how his mother died and some very important information about heart attack symptoms in women as opposed to men. He tells how he feels the medical system was set up by and for men and so isn't serving women like it could or should. (See the links below) We discuss moving through grief with and after having children as I lost my uncle around the same time. Death is a fact of life and I believe it isn't something we should hide from children. They need to see us happy, sad,…

The joys of travelling with children are discussed on this episode! The most difficult age to travel with a child, what to pack, tricks to help your child sleep on vacation, preparing for the unexpected, and how many diapers to pack for the plane! I talk with Erin and Craig who took their Adventure Baby to Australia and New Zealand for TWO MONTHS when she was 3.5-5.5 months old, Japan, Quebec and MANY more. They have a blog that details all of their travels and is organized by age of their Adventure Baby and by places they’ve travelled (before and after baby). It explains thoroughly what you will need and gives many tips and tricks for different ages of children you may be travelling with. In this episode Craig and Erin share some top tips that have carried them through travels with their child at every stage such as: honouring the child's sleep schedule, packing your laundry detergent from home, using a video monitor, things you should think about before choosing where to stay and how carrying toys you…

On January 1, 2020 I recorded in my car because this hit me and I HAD to share. It’s less than 10 minutes, but I really think this idea could change your relationship with your child forever-in an amazingly positive way. I hope you love it!! Note: the statement I shared with my kids is not my own idea...I read it in an article on Facebook and for the LIFE of me, I cannot find it again...if you know whose idea this is/was please email me so that I can give them credit charlene@playfuljoyparenting.com

Probably shouldn't listen WITH your children...ask for headphones for Christmas so you can listen while you cook, wrap, drive, bake, eat or while you do anything:) I first share where I've been and what I have been doing on this accidental 3 month hiatus...and then...talk about how it's almost that time!!! Christmas and the holiday season is such a fun time for children and parents and many people love it. It's also okay if you don't love it! On this episode, I share some of the things that I would have liked to hear during my first Christmases as a parent...some of the mistakes I made in over doing it, or putting my energy and attention into things that I now wouldn't bother with. At the end, I give some of my tools for remaining the parent I want to be during this time of year (or any extra busy or stressful time, really). If you like mindfulness you will like this part:) I also share some of my mediocre, but enough ideas for that damn elf on the shelf ;) Here are some better ideas than mine if you are…

Lexa Bergen is the guest this week! She is an amazing photographer, mother of two and simply a very interesting person to talk to! We connected when she asked me about starting a podcast and our conversation quickly turned to the topic of diversity - how people in the community talk to, look at, connect with and treat people who are different from themselves. (Hint: the golden rule your Grandma taught you is probably all anyone needs). Lexa has a son with special needs so we chat about our gratitude for the medical system in Canada (my oldest has had 2 fairly major surgeries and Lexa and I have both been in and out of Children's Hospital with our kids). This episode is about how we can see our children for their abilities FIRST and then encourage other people (teachers, friends, strangers) to do the same. We talk teachers and school and Lexa shares her vision of what she would like inclusion to look like. We discuss what we learn as adults when we take a moment to view life from our children's pure,…

This down-to-earth chat with the amazing and refreshing Samantha Strange is ALL about sexual health. We laugh about parents trying to get privacy in the bathroom, "nocturnal emissions", getting "kicked in the balls", the unrealistic aspects of porn and SO much more. She gives wonderful advice about starting the conversation, the words to use, keeping it positive and giving accurate information. This episode is meant to help you understand a little bit about: what is taught in the BC school curriculum and when to have discussions, how to speak to your children about their body parts, body changes, conception, birth, sex etc. This episode is meant for parents to listen to it is not a chat given in a developmental appropriate way for children to listen to. I love that Sam is working to remove shame and build compassion by helping everyone of all sexes and genders understand about each other in every way. www.Samanthastrange.com Instagram: @sexualhealthwithsam Facebook page: search "nothing strange about it"…

A speech by Matthew McConaughey is the inspiration for this episode. He talks about the difference between happiness and joy and I think the distinction is worth noting since this podcast is about finding the joy in parenting! His speech is also worth the listen. It is called "Matthew McConaughey - This Is Why You're Not Happy One Of The Most Eye Opening Speeches" and you can find it on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/p0p1fjLPjYQ After his quotes, I talk about HOW we can pinpoint what brings us joy, how that is different for every parent and how you can find your 'sweet spot' as a parent. Thanks for listening! If you love it please share the name of the podcast with a friend and subscribe, rate and review wherever you listen. You can connect with me in one of these ways: email: playfuljoypodcast@gmail.com Instagram: @playfuljoypodcast Facebook Page: Charlene Nicole Twitter: @playfulpod

A short chat about a win I had this week in the parenting arena. The little things we do everyday with good intentions and that are centred around the kind of parent we want to be really do add up...we can change a relationship, build attachment, create a safe space or create whatever we want for and with our children...EVEN while we are making mistakes and might be feeling like we're failing everyday, every week or every hour. It's not the mistakes that matter it's the recovery-the trying again tomorrow. Also, my child licked the pavement so much as I spoke to a friend at sports day today that there was a HUGE wet spot on the ground where he had been licking...wtf?! Maybe I need to feed this kid more?

"Is it possible that we all feel like failures [as parents] because we have the wrong job description?" - Glennon Doyle Melton. This episode is about How I came to remember that it is important to let children feel their pain and work through it. And how I was reminded (again) to let go of guilt and just be there for my children in a slightly scary situation...then I got to watch as they both were brave and helpful and there for each other. Some of this we all already knew - we can't save our children from every ounce of pain they might experience. What we may not have realized: those exact same pains they will experience (that will be gut wrenching for us to watch them go through, and would sometimes be quite easy for us to fix or figure out FOR them), are EXACTLY the experiences that will shape them. If we want strong, persistent, resilient, problem-solving children then we have to let them feel the pains of life. I'll let you listen to figure out how the poop part plays a role in my having arrived at…

This episode is about all things Kindergarten! Starting school expectations, reading readiness, end of the year craziness, separation anxiety, mental health days (yes, 5-year-olds need them too!) and different teaching styles all come up in our conversation. Kayla Kiselich runs an in-home daycare and has her Early Childhood Education Certificate just like me:) We love chatting about our children and child development and hope you like listening! PLEASE subscribe and rate on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen!

Just a short, funny, relatable analogy to what it is like being with young children ALL day...or even for a short time for that matter! The demands being placed on our minds and bodies every day when working with children REQUIRES that we take breaks, ask for help, practice self care, do things we love and check in with people who support and love us!!! Hang in there everyone it’s going to be a great weekend, but it’s also going to have WTF moments too :) Listen to the episode with Catherine Roscoe Barr for more tips on taking care of yourself!

Kara Coleman is the guest this week! She is both the visionary behind Parallel Yoga in Abbotsford, BC and a certified yoga instructor. She is a mother of 3 and has created a space that is exactly what she wanted it to be “Authentic. Safe. Home.” and when speaking to Kara one feels safe and cared about-just like everyone should at home. Kara discovered yoga in her early years as a mother and tells us how attending classes turned into building and running her own studio! We talk teenagers-she has them and I’m scared to have them-organized sports, yoga, volunteering, conscious involvement in kids’ lives vs. busy just to be busy and SO much more. You can find the studio and a schedule of classes at www.parallelyoga.ca You can follow the studio on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram @ParallelYoga Please let me know what you think of this episode on Instagram @playfuljoypodcast or by email playfuljoypodcast@gmail.com Thank you for listening!

Tamara Taggart is the guest this week! She is the Liberal Party of Canada’s candidate for Vancouver Kingsway, a mother of 3, a veteran Canadian broadcaster, an advocate, a Vancouverite and simply a down-to-earth woman who tells it like it is. Tamara and I chat about how we think parenting has changed over the past few generations, how we can find balance and ask for help, what happens when we are overwhelmed or exhausted and what it means to parent past ourselves and accept our children exactly as they are. At the end of the episode, we share things we never thought we’d say as mothers.

Catherine Roscoe Barr is the guest this week! With a Bachelor of Science degree in neuroscience and 18 years as a wellness professional – certified as a personal trainer, fitness instructor, older adult specialist and coach practitioner – Catherine is regularly featured on blogs, TV shows, podcasts and radio programs for her expert opinion on mental, physical and spiritual health. On this episode we talk personal growth, sleep deprivation, fitting in physical activity while raising children, vaginas after child birth, following your intuition, self-love AND how saying “parenting is hard” doesn’t even begin to describe how difficult parenting really is. We also mention: Brene Brown, Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations (Podcast) with Shawn Achor, Yung Pueblo, Emelia Symington Fedy, and SO much more!! More links on IG @playfuljoypodcast Keep the emails coming! Questions, comments and funny anecdotes-I want to hear them all! Playfuljoypodcast@gmail.com

This is a quick chat about what this podcast is about and why I’m making it. It is inspired by quotes from Catherine Roscoe Barr and Glennon Doyle Melton who both in their own ways reminded me to just keep publishing episodes, keep making mistakes and learning, keep showing up as my true imperfect self who is here to help. Thanks for listening!

Why do we parent the way we do? Why can’t we parent the way we thought we would? Why are penises ALL little boys want to talk about?!! And how should we handle this topic with our children without shame. These are just some of the things I discuss on this episode with my cousin, (and fellow Early Childhood Education worker), Kayla Kiselich.

This episode quotes from Dr. Robert Puff’s podcast “The Happiness Podcast” where he suggests letting go of the guilt you have for your child’s choices/actions and parenting from a calm place that lets you respond to your child instead of reacting to what they are doing or what you THOUGHT their life would look like. At the end of the episode is a funny but wise quote from my husband.

After a rough night, I realized (again) why I want to make this podcast...to connect with other parents and share our triumphs and failures. Success is better when it’s shared and failures are easier to swallow when you know everyone else is faking it and (TRULY) has no idea what to do either. At 9:44 I share a quote that another teacher shared with me - it’s about being brave - it really hit me and I hope it helps you too. Tough days are hard...but tomorrow’s another day and we are strong.

Curiosity killed the cat, but it doesn’t have to kill your will to carry on while chasing after children who won’t stop touching EVERYTHING! If having curious, inquiring (they ask 300 questions a day) and intelligent children is causing you frustration and exhaustion this episode will show you the bright side and hopefully change your mindset towards curiosity a little:) Cover art for this episode is a toy my son broke due to his curiosity for how it worked😏. Book: “Curious” by Ian Leslie is the one quotes in this episode Ideas for bean bins and bath time activities on Instagram @playfuljoypodcast

Why does someone always have to poop the second it’s time to leave?! On this episode I chat about how to get out of the house and to school on time in the morning. And a reminder not to feel bad if you don’t :) Episode Notes: www.naturalbeachliving.com/daily-visual-schedule. Search “visual timers” on Amazon to see the timers with the red that disappears as time goes by.

We've all heard that parent counting 1,2,3...but what's after 3?! On this episode it's talk of logical, predictable consequences and how to start using them.

How children communicate and how we can react or respond. How listening to what the child is telling us through their actions AND their words might help you understand those difficult days. Sunscreen disaster story is at the end:)